It can be difficult to have someone you care about go through depression. You may be confused about some of the behaviours and symptoms of depression and are unsure about how to best help them. You may be so concerned about them that you do not notice how their depression is affecting you. Depression rarely happens in isolation; it is often strongly affected by relationships, and can itself have a profound effect on relationships in turn. Here are some helpful things to keep in mind.
1. Recovering from depression is a process, and often a long one. There are no quick or magical fixes. It doesn’t go away after a fun night out, or with a good meal, or by pretending it’s not there and not paying it any attention. Even when your loved one experiences a success in their journey it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re “all better”. Be patient in the recovery process, and don’t push your loved one beyond what they are able to do.
2. Continue to communicate that you are there to support them and do not take it personally if they refuse your help. Gently ask them if there is anything you can do to support them, even if they continue to say “no”. Keep the door open to demonstrate your steadfast care and support.
3. Sharing your feelings, thoughts, and occasionally even your struggles allows your loved one to partner with you in your own life, helping them feel less like a “patient” and more like a valued friend or family member.
4. Caring for someone with depression can be stressful and tiring. The burden of caregiving can affect your mental and physical health, no matter how willing to care and compassionate you are. Getting help and support for yourself can help you cope with stress, learn new skills, and feel less alone in your caregiving role. It may be useful to talk to family or friends who understand, join a support group, or connect with a mental health professional during this time.